Over the last few days I’ve learnt some very important lessons, the biggest of which was discovered today: Grace follows me wherever I go, No act of kindness and love is ever lost, We are all exactly the same fundamentally. I happened upon these lessons in a very beautiful way. It began a few days ago when I…
Can we be true to ourselves even if that means failing another? That is a question that I have been plagued with. The more I choose to love myself and vote for myself first, the more complex it becomes for everyone else. This act of juggling and choosing to serve me or serve others leaves me exhausted, with a dire…
Love and life is woven into the tapestry of my existence. I’ve died a hundred times trying to ignore and stifle the humming of my heart. I tell the truth and come to you with every wound, every secret I’ve kept hidden, every lie I’ve ever told. I come to you with sins and regrets, loss and memories and days…
For the better part of my life, I have been a witness to the exceptional way my mother has operated her life with compassion and selfless service. Nursing for over 30 years and specialising in psychiatry, my mother has dedicated her life to the community in service of families in need. Her efficiency and empathy for people experiencing any kind…
Most of us, if we’re really lucky, get to experience a profound revelation after a traumatic or otherwise difficult life experience. We do the hard work to help us recover and own our mistakes and move forward. Equipped with useful information and with the best intentions of participating fully, passionately and harmoniously with the world, we enter into a new…
Fear. Not the kind that is inspired by the likes of Freddie Kruger. It is the type that is debilitating, paralysing and stunting growth and development. We are raised in a society that propagates an almost nefarious message throughout our formative years of why we should not do certain things, why it is dangerous to take a risk. Fear in…
These are the names I have been called: Black bitch Idiot Worthless piece of shit Ugly Giraffe Pink Panther Doll Baby Love Beauty Angel MILF Gorgeous Lady Boss Fraud Insensitive Aggressive Mean Nasty Selfish Inconsistent Unappreciative Kind Mum Loving Friend Slut Attention seeker Inspiration Maverick Intelligent Stupid Damaged Crazy Irresponsible Funny Cool Trendy Talented Question is, what do I answer…
I used to cry myself to sleep, wanting to find my soul a home, feeling like a caged bird singing for things unknown. This feeling of disconsolation was essentially me for years – breathing just a little and calling it a life. I was a victim of circumstance and bad decisions which I felt was my penance for the choices…
Cover of Phenomenal Woman Humans, by their very nature, are fallible. As women, we tend to ignore our fallibility and maintain this quest to be the perfect mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend or career-woman. Couple that with the enormous pressure we place on ourselves to look a certain way so our men can venerate us but when the same men…