It’s no secret that I’ve always been slightly agnostic about religion. I don’t subscribe to indoctrination. I don’t feel inclined to perform rituals based on antiquated beliefs and I don’t actually indulge in conversations with people about religion because it becomes so highly contentious. Also, I have little respect for hypocrisy and the people who advocate what is “right” and…
Can we be true to ourselves even if that means failing another? That is a question that I have been plagued with. The more I choose to love myself and vote for myself first, the more complex it becomes for everyone else. This act of juggling and choosing to serve me or serve others leaves me exhausted, with a dire…
I’ve been mulling over the concept of integrity over the last few days. More than just HAVING it, how many of us actually LIVE with it? I know for a fact that I like to think I do, but I don’t. Not consistently anyway. And it’s hard but necessary to tell that truth. Living with integrity means more to me…
I had a conversation with my teenage daughter recently that saddened me. As women, we are raised to believe in certain “truths” about beauty, standards that emanate from society’s warped perceptions and ideologies. This results in a collective neurosis of body shaming women. Our minds becoming servants to our bodies and not vice versa. I adopted this mentality too. And…
I’ve been having conversations recently that reminded me of my own a-ha moments and my personal journey with overcoming fear that once debilitated me. I have learnt through my own experience that courage should be recognised at the heart of the vulnerable. In a world that advocates living a life of pretence, I bow down to those who keep their…
Last week I interviewed a woman whom I’ve long admired. She is a widely respected academic, a human rights practitioner, an advocate of women’s entrepreneurial development, a revered author and all round maverick in her field. We got to chatting generally and discovered shared interests and passions and a common investment in personal growth and development. Once the official meeting…
Love and life is woven into the tapestry of my existence. I’ve died a hundred times trying to ignore and stifle the humming of my heart. I tell the truth and come to you with every wound, every secret I’ve kept hidden, every lie I’ve ever told. I come to you with sins and regrets, loss and memories and days…
I don’t want to waste time waiting for someone to appreciate or value me. By the time that realisation comes, it would be too late. I want someone to know it immediately and to appreciate it immediately and together we will move mountains. If I give myself willingly to a man who doesn’t value his own spirit, why would I…
Most of us, if we’re really lucky, get to experience a profound revelation after a traumatic or otherwise difficult life experience. We do the hard work to help us recover and own our mistakes and move forward. Equipped with useful information and with the best intentions of participating fully, passionately and harmoniously with the world, we enter into a new…
Fear. Not the kind that is inspired by the likes of Freddie Kruger. It is the type that is debilitating, paralysing and stunting growth and development. We are raised in a society that propagates an almost nefarious message throughout our formative years of why we should not do certain things, why it is dangerous to take a risk. Fear in…