Earlier this year, whilst in a discussion with my boss, he referred to me as a “maverick”. At first, I thought I was being compared to an unbranded cow, only to realise he meant the other description, the nicer one (see ‘nonconformist’, ‘one of a kind’, ‘individualistic’). This was a heavy compliment as it came from a very difficult boss. Once said, it was embedded in my soul – embargoed from sharing, until I fully accepted the enormity of it. It may seem strange to you, but this was massive for me – a breakthrough. It was my absolution from many years of self-loathing and low self-esteem where my life was dictated to and held captive by the fear that prevented me from becoming who I was meant to be.
You see, until very recently, I was the proverbial wallflower, never daring to dream further than what the reality of my life was. When I moved from the small town that stifled me, something changed. The possibilities become endless. I was surrounded by movers and shakers and I did not want to be invisible anymore or ashamed of choices I made in my youth. I became restless and the need to do more was a stirring within me I could not ignore. My goal was to become the journalist I dreamt of becoming for years, fulfilling my passion for writing and connecting with women through stories that everyone could relate to. I chose to study again and did whatever I could to start the ball rolling in the right direction. I am happy to say that I am now finally reaping the rewards of my effort and my dreams are firmly on track. The fact that I am being published in a magazine that has a readership of more than thirty thousand women across the world, fills me with joy and excitement.
Following your passion, living your dream and giving yourself every opportunity you can, are elements that should be incorporated into your self-fulfilling prophecy over your life. Fear, lack of money or resources, no support…whatever the ties are that bind you, you have the freedom of choice to make changes. Start by incorporating a little of what you love doing in your daily life. Plan, envision, believe in yourself and do what you need to do to live your best life.
We are constantly reminded of how short and precious life is. The time is now to make changes.
Dare to dream!
I see so many similarities in our lives. It’s as if I could have written your articles about love and disappointment and moving forward.
I have also written after my 28 year relationship ended. I met my ex husband when i was 14.
My personal blog is attached to my facebook page. It is called Wise Queen Fiction attached to my facebook profile Shabnum Ameer
I think most women can empathise with my journey considering a lot of it isn’t exclusive to me. The difference is speaking authentically about it in the hope that it helps even one person! Best of luck to you.